Selling Babies

Maybe its because I see things for what they are. Maybe I'm thinking too hard. (I doubt it). Maybe its because I'm getting older?

I'm taking a solo performance workshop in SF that is assisting me in writing and turning into a play/ solo performance about some of the diffucult parts of the birth search and my own personal issues that are being revealed as I'm moving through this moment in my life and my gaze back to my childhood.

Because I've been writing about this, and thinking hard about my birth, my adoption, my life in relationship to my family, my parents… etc.. I keep noticing things in a different way that are now being revealed to me as I move through my daily life. I mean, I already have a sharp eye for identifying racism, racist politics etc… but for some reason when i was in class I said something about the "marketing issue" of my 'papers' that were presented to my parents that said my 'racial mix' (see the first Welcome to the Birth Project post) – it seems like its becoming a theme. This paper, that documents my racial background as one thing, when clearly I am something else – was part of the reason I was appealing to my parents. As I mentioned before, in the 1970's transracial Asian adoptions were at a high and i was part of that 'trend'. This marketing ploy to present me to a well-meaning white family will become a funny part of my play – BUT – today I came across this and my visceral reaction was so strong I nearly got sick all over my keyboard. and I think the question for me is becoming WHY did I have such a strong reaction? What about this makes me sick? Why does it bother me? I'm not sure… but I will be doing some more writing and some more mental digging to work it through. As far as my performance is concerned.. im concerned because my teacher/director says that its diffucult to write and perform something when you are inside the middle of it.. and i clearly am inside the middle of this. How will that affect what I am able to create?

"The director of Covenant Care (Christian Adoption agency in GA) asked me to help her network to find an adoptive family. This is what she shared:
We have a situation with a sibling group (2yo and 5yo African American boys) that need a family.
The boys are healthy and normal with recent psychological information available. We have been working with their Mother who has been adamant that she wants these boys placed with a family.
She has struggled being a Mom and has 3 other children, but her
other children have the support of their birth fathers. We have
pictures and other information on them if you would like to discuss this with us…
The contact person for these boys is ******** (my edit) .
A non negotiable for CCS is always a two-parent Christian family, the parents must be full communicant church members, pro-life, and between the ages of 25 and 48 (age limit for Af Am), married 3 years for a first marriage, 5 years for a second or subsequent marriage and be willing to sign our Statement of Faith. We also require a church evaluation to be completed by their pastor. The placement fees for Af. Am adoptions is $3800 and for each additonal child, it would be $1000 (In the adoption of a sibling group or multiple births). This of course does not include the Home Assessment fee which is done separately and depending on the circumstances is between $1250 and $1500."

I mean, how else do I think these things get done? You have a child, you send out an advertisement yes? But isnt that something like brokering humans? But then how else do I think things get done? What would make this process better? How else to parents find children? Children find parents?


2 thoughts on “Selling Babies

  1. I can’t help but see the parallels to auctioning off babies. And its not like the parallel isn’t almost exact: White babies sell for more. So do Asian babies. The problem is that we got families that feel good about themselves by saving a little brown baby. As if the problem is the original brown community (sorry, African American boys).

    I worry deeply about the same church that defended (and made billions of dollars off of) slavery also brokering babies into “Christian” homes (since when is Christian a synonym of caring, respectful, conscious, racially aware, loving?).

    Sell black babies?

    Let’s donate that cash to the mother, let’s support her By Any Means Necessary in raising her children. You wanna save some babies? Go be part of another parents’ life. You aint gotta claim your “property” to help.

  2. Wow, Lisa Marie. Wow, Christopher.

    I know this is more than a year late, but I have just sat down to weave my way through your site. I remember thinking that the monies for adoption fees should go to assist the parent, and then create a co-parenting/co-caring relationship between the two families, and saying this to my husband.

    He broke into tears at this, understanding that in this country, so many people simple seek ‘ownership,’ of a child, and some new parent status in their families and communities, and so therefore would be forever averse to it. I was beside myself that it seemed I was the only one thinking this could work.

    So many facets of the troublesome contradictions inherent in the ‘adopt a brown child and raise him in your good Christian family’ are finely touched on here. I will continue to read.

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